HOW TO FIX YOUR GENDER CONFUSION.
UPDATE NOVEMBER 1, 2024
If you are struggling with gender and the belief that you are trapped in the wrong body, then here is the simple advice from a person who has had the same feelings as you, and managed to finally figure out the key to resolving this shit.
First thing you have to understand is your gender feelings are the result of a really messed up society. Your parents, and their parents are fucked up when it comes to being adults, and parents. It's not really their fault, but they just bought into the 1970s beliefs that parents had a right to be "themselves" and do what felt good. So, they stopped being the adult in their relationship with you, and tried to be your friend. They avoided saying NO to you, cause you would get upset, and you became spoiled.
And that translated into parents of those two generations being self centered and wanting more time away from their kids. To do this, they stuck you in front of the games, internet, and smart phones to occupy you while they did their thing.
This use of technology kept you from understanding what your role as a boy, or girl was. The use of personal tech devices stopped the normal transfer of social roles and sex roles from being transferred down to you, the next generation. So instead of your mom or dad being a role model for you, based on your sex, during time with them at dinner, helping to do chores, hanging with your dad while he fixes the car, or while your mom cooks dinner didn't happen, and you were thrown into a world without any understanding of what you are.
On the surface you wouldn't think these simple times with them would mean anything of importance. But your fucked up gender confusion is the end result of these ideas and messed up understanding of what being a boy or girl is. It is your confusion that proves how important all those missed moments with your parents and grandparents are to you growing up comfortable with just being you.
Gender confused people spent more time away from these socializing moments than actively involved with them, and .... here you are, thinking that you of the opposite sex in your head. NOT A GOOD place to be.
Then you take a person who grew up without a solid feeling about being a boy or girl is and feels like, and then stick you in a school or university that is pushing gay and transgender ideology, and bang! You find a label that seems to fit your mental state.
And now you think cutting of parts of your body, and taking pills will fix how uncomfortable you are in the world.
Here's where my fifty years of dealing with my own gender confusion might help you. So please keep reading.
The pills and surgery won't fix you. They didn't fix me, or any other trans person I've ever met over all these years.
If you really want to fix your life and resolve this conflict, you can do it without taking a single pill or cutting off your junk or breasts.
It is simple.
Put your phone down.
Stop accessing pro trans web sites and chat boards.
And go out into the world and live.
By interacting with real people, in the real, not virtual world, you will learn about yourself.
By living your life as you, as you are, you will allow your real spirit to fly.
Stop thinking that changing your hair color, your lip color, or getting more tats will make you happy.
Living life fully, not through your phones or the internet is the answer to all gender confusion.
Get a fucking job that really truly challenges you.
Work your ass off, go to bed tired every night.
Actively live in the real world.
And I promise you, that one day soon, you will wake up one day and feel comfortable in your own skin.
It took me 50 years to understand this. I de transitioned at age 65, and am still glad that I finally figured it out.
It's never too late.
Put the phone down, and jump into the business of living.
Rene
reach out to me if you want to talk.
renejax@renejax.com