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It has been seven years since my book, Don't get on the plane was published. Since then, I have been contacted by hundreds of parents who are dealing with gender confused kids. The conversations all pretty much start with the same introduction. “My child is a very bright kid, and out of no where, they came to me and announced they are trapped in the wrong body.

The majority of these parents could not think of any extraordinary circumstance in their child's life, that might have been cause of internal conflict that could have been a source for this, their demon seed.

Over these many years I have lent my shoulder, and hand to parents who have struggled and fought to save their child from the surgical and chemical mutilation that supporting teachers and doctors offer their child.

Early on, many state legislatures passed laws prohibiting counseling against cross sex living, so it became nearly impossible for them to find a therapist that would not support and encourage their child's sex reassignment. So, it was left to me and the parents to try to find ideas and methods to help their kid explore their personal identity, and hopefully resolve their gender confusion, and move away from surgical intervention that was being offered them.

Here is everything I know, served to you hot, and free of charge.

  1. This new gender confusion that has struck the western world, is a social contagion.

  2. It is brought on by the introduction of smart computer chip devices early in the child's life. Many were given computer games in their high chairs while under the age of 2.

  3. These devices limited the normal exchange of identity and place in the family and social structure.

  4. While at the same time, they helped turn the child inward, and more introspective. The child becomes addicted to constant dopamine rushes created by their online social applications and interactions. All social interactions with other kids their age is centered around their smart phones, and the internet.

  5. According to the CDC: “Dopamine is a neurotransmitter made in your brain. It plays a role as a “reward center” and in many body functions, including memory, movement, motivation, mood, attention and more. High or low dopamine levels are associated with diseases including Parkinson’s disease, restless legs syndrome and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).”

  6. As a result, the child reaches puberty emotionally weak, and addicted to their own self satisfaction. The majority can be clinically defined as narcissists.

  7. At the same time, pro transgender and queer ideology is being introduced into every school system in the nation. Being gay and trans is no long taboo, and is promoted by a generation of young LGBT friendly, and anti normative progressive teachers.

  8. Mass media begins to push gay and trans characters across all television and movies. It becomes OKAY to be transgender.

  9. As the child nears puberty, they begin to encounter the real world and are thrown into emotional turmoil. Their view of themselves, is in conflict with how the older world of personal interchange and conflict operates.

  10. Then they announce, “I am trapped in the wrong body”

  11. When in fact, they are simply trapped in the wrong parallel universe.

  12. While they were getting their dopamine rushes from their smart phones, the rest of the children in the world, were having conversations over every meal. They were being interacted with by their family, their grandmothers. They were getting bullied by, and in conflict and fights with the other children in their community. These normal social situations help individuals to understand themselves, society, and their role in the world. It helps cement a person's identify with regard to being a man or woman. 

  13. So, with this as a background, the parent's I have worked with have tried a multitude of things to help their child resolve their gender conflict.

  14. Here is what works.

  • Remove them from the source of the contagion.

  • Get them physically and emotionally involved with other humans.

  • Expose them to as much of the real/physical world as possible.


It is really that simple. Their conversion and adaptation to the real world takes time, and effort. Parents can not let their child have one foot in the other world by letting them keep the internet, and one foot, part time in the real world. It doesn't work, I know we have tried it.

Below is a list of things that have successfully led to children moving away from their belief they are trapped in the wrong body.


  1. Get them out of public school, and home school.

  2. Take away their smart phones and internet access. No more facebook, instagram, twitter.

  3. No more mass media. TV or Teen Vogue.

  4. Don't bother to send them to a therapist. It is a waste of time and money.

  5. Get back to basics in your family. Teach your sons to be men, and daughters to be women

  6. What doesn't work is using their preferred pronouns.

  7. What doesn't work is letting them cross dress or take pills.

  8. What doesn't work is not removing the source of their contagion.


While it may seem overly simple to follow these well learned steps, I assure you it is not. You child has fifteen to twenty years of this addictive behavior by the time their gender confusion shows up on the radar. And quite honestly, most American families just can't stop everything, get their kids out of school and travel the world. But surprisingly this does work. I have seen parents move their gender confused kids back to China, back to Italy and back to Germany. And their kids loose much of the pressure and desire to change their sex.

So there is the secret to the gender universe.

You are welcome to reach out to me at if you need help, support, or a good recipe for white bread.

Rene Jax